A great Positive Discipline tool to help your child begin to find alternative ways to express anger and frustration.

At a calm time, sit with them and ask, “What are some things that you can do when you are feeling frustrated or angry (with a friend, on the playground, at school, with me..)?

Wait for their response.  If they say, “I don’t know”, say, “Would you like some suggestions?”

Brainstorm together alternatives to hitting, kicking, biting, pulling hair, etc and create the Anger Wheel together as age appropriate.

There are a couple of options for using this and I am sure you can come up with more.

When the child is angry and acting out in an inappropriate manner calmly say, “That is not appropriate which of these things would you like to do instead?” and show them the Wheel.  Let them pick which one they want to do.  If it is a situation where you don’t have the wheel, say the same thing, but offer a choice of 2 of the alternatives.

For older children I have heard of parents making a small laminated copy of it for the child to carry with them in their pocket to refer to at school, etc.

Let me know what your successes have been with this tool!  Leave a comment below.