Our Mission: To provide parents & caregivers with powerful, meaningful support and education that empowers & enlightens thus developing stronger relationships and bonds between parent and child.
We believe in building support and community for parents during this incredibly challenging journey called parenthood.
We believe in creating a world where children are valued, thrive and become empathetic, resilient, successful adults.
The Basis for our Programs= Positive Discipline/Positive Psychology
*Based on the philosophies of Dr. Alfred Adler and Dr. Rudolf Dreikurs, these doctors understood the importance of maintaining dignity and respect for all people — including children.
All Positive Discipline Books and Workshops provide parents and teachers and other leaders with non-punitive methods to encourage and empower children and adults, and to help them develop valuable social and life skills. The methods are based on:
• Making sure the message of love and respect gets through. (Connection before Correction)
• Providing a foundation of kindness and firmness at the same time
• Seeing mistakes as wonderful opportunities for learning
• Helping children explore the consequences of their choices (through curiosity questions) instead of imposing consequences (poorly disguised punishment) on them to make them pay for their mistakes.
• Focusing on solutions. Getting children involved so they have ownership and motivation to follow guidelines they help create (and to learn important life skills in the process.) Examples include:
• Inviting children to help create routine charts (morning, bedtime, jobs, etc.)
• Family meetings and/or class meetings to teach problem-solving skills, communication skills, and many other important life skills
• Inviting children to help create a “wheel of choice” that includes many solutions to typical conflicts. Children can then “choose” the solution that will be most helpful to them.
• Eliminating negative time-out and inviting children to help create a “positive time out” area that they can “choose” when a cooling off time would be helpful. (A self-soothing skill that would benefit many adults.)
• Getting into the child’s world—understanding that a “misbehaving child” is a “discouraged” child and the importance of dealing with the “belief” behind the behavior
• Understanding your “Top Card” (personality style) and what it invites from children and others.
• Mutual respect
• Many, many more ideas for treating children with dignity and respect
Five Criteria for Positive Discipline
1. Helps children feel a sense of connection? (Belonging and Significance)
2. Is respectful and encouraging? (Kind and firm at the same time)
3. Is effective long-term? (Punishment works short term, but has negative long-term results.)
4. Teaches valuable social and life skills for good character?
5. Invites children to discover how capable they are? (Encourages the constructive use of personal power and autonomy)
*Written by Jane Nelsen, Positive Discipline Author